“That emotion showed me how much pain can sit in this body of yours; pain and sorrow that you don’t know you have until it is unleashed.” – Gerard Butler

Gerard Butler’s parents had divorced when he was very young. He never heard or saw his father for a long time. Until when he was sixteen years old, he met his father again at a restaurant in Scotland. After the meeting, he said how the tears wouldn’t stop and he came to the profound realization about how much pain can be inside us and we may not even realize it until something triggers it.

Releasing Your Pain and Fears

I have been very fortunate in many areas of my life. But even I sometimes have realized how much hurt has been inside me until some situation or moment triggered the pain in me. I had a moment like this recently and I couldn’t stop crying.

I have seen this in people close to me as well. One particular experience comes to mind. I remember dating a guy and never knowing he had a twin brother. Until his birthday came and I wanted to celebrate the day in a fun and grand way with him.

I Noticed He Became Sad and Lost

He kept avoiding celebrating his day. I thought maybe it was something to do with work or another normal matter. We went to the restaurant and ordered our drinks, he then told me with a shaky voice about his twin brother being no more due to an electrical incident in India decade ago.

I comforted him the best I could and then I instantly understood why he spoke very little of his family and seemed to be emotionally distant. He was holding so much within. For reasons best known to us, we don’t date anymore, but I did tell him to deal with the pain buried deep inside his heart. We all have some pain or fear deep inside us and it’s important to confront it so we can be happy and have peace of mind. This allows you to feel real intimacy with yourself and with someone else.

Have you felt this way? What are your thoughts on this experience? Please share with me in the comments.