“Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.” – Unknown

This quote spoke to me deeply. Happiness is not something unattainable. It’s in each of our hands. We may believe that happiness is only for a few chosen people in this world, but that is absolutely not true.

Happiness is Inside You

Why are there People with Wealth and Fame who are Not Happy?

There was a time in my life when I believed having lots of money and success would be the solution to finding happiness. Money and stability are important, but it’s more a means for living a good life. But it doesn’t bring you happiness or peace of mind.

If that was the case, then how many times have you switched on the channel and heard things about a celebrity or public figure going through challenging times?

I used to think that having too much money was not a good thing. But that’s not right either.

When You Start Putting Your Happiness in the Hands of Someone or Something….

It’s when you put your happiness in someone or something else. You attach yourself to material possessions or money or a person. Having money or power is wonderful, but don’t make that the means for your happiness.

Derive happiness from yourself. You ARE the Source of your happiness. When you do that, no matter what is happening in your external world, you will feel secure and peaceful.

Do you feel happiness in yourself? Have you ever put your happiness in something or someone else? Please share with me in the comments.

In the world we live in today, there is an obsession to make more money, land that coveted promotion, have a grand marriage, and the list goes on and on.

Winning Can be Obsessive

In other words, there is an obsession with winning. I have found myself caught in this trap, too.

You Focus on the End Result More than the Process

When you’re into winning too much, you end up focusing on the end result. You don’t let the process unfold organically. There is a danger to this because you don’t let yourself relax and enjoy the beautiful process.

I say this often, but I found immense satisfaction in the process of writing my novel Enchanted Silence. When I found out the news I had received an offer of representation, I was thrilled! I jumped up and down with joy. I had tears of joy in my eyes. But this is no way takes away from the wild journey I took to get here.

And even now, signing with an agent is the first step. There is a beautiful journey ahead. The outcome is important, but I also want to enjoy this process of writing a novel and getting my first novel published.

Does Not Create Emotional Balance

Also, by focusing on winning too much, you link your self-esteem and confidence to the outcome. See, you can put in your work and do things with the right spirit, but the outcome is ultimately not in your control. Let everything unfold as they are meant to be. Do your part, put in your heart, and trust the Universe will bring you what is yours.

What is your biggest takeaway from this post? Please share with me in the comments.

Whatever I write in my posts comes straight from my heart. When I share tips, it comes from my personal experiences and even observing my girl friends. I write because I want to be connected to you dear reader. And because it makes me connect to my heart.

Feel Powerful by Not Being in Control

So here goes. This week, I had been struggling with myself. I suddenly broke down and started crying. I spoke to my mother half talking and sobbing.

Letting Loose and Letting Go….

I told her I was tired of being put together all the time. I couldn’t hold everything together. I was cracking under the pressure. But then my mother asked me: What pressure?

It was true. No one in my family was giving me any pressure. Work had gotten busy and I was feeling overwhelmed in that department. The reality was I was being squeezed by my own expectations.

Related: The Beauty of Emotional Freedom – Take 4 Steps to Feel Liberated

It was in My Own Head

It’s great to have high expectations for yourself, but they don’t have to wear you down. That was what I had done. I had started to suffocate myself with my own expectations. I was over thinking and trying to be in control again. My mind was going in crazy planning mode.

I Took a HUGE, DEEP Breath!

I let the air fill my lungs. Why was I doing this to myself? Why couldn’t I surrender? Why couldn’t I trust the process again? I was trying too hard. So I stopped trying. And I started feeling again. I paid sharp attention to my emotions this week. When I drove to the gym today, I literally asked myself how I was feeling.

I have come to realize this is a daily process. I slip up and I have to start to dive deep again to remind myself to let my life unfold moment by moment.

Let myself feel powerful in the unknown. Just let my heart speak to me through its own beautiful whispers.

How do you feel powerful in not being in control? Please share with me in the comments.

Have you ever noticed when you get caught in this dangerous game of comparing yourself to others? How do you feel?

STOP Comparing Yourself to Other People

When You’re Not Living Your Vision, You Tend to Look Outward…

When your life is not where you want it to be or you feel behind in some way, you don’t feel great and instead feel you are lacking in every area. In this situation, it’s easy to look outward and see people living their “perfect” lives.

Related: The Beauty of Emotional Freedom – Take 4 Steps to Feel Liberated

Social Media Can be Misleading

When everything fell apart in my and my family’s lives and I would browse on my Facebook page, all I saw were happy people living their fulfilling lives. All I could think about was why didn’t I have what they had.

I Felt Angry and Bitter.

But how did I really know if they were happy and leading perfect lives? Maybe they were happy, but it was certainly not going to help me by comparing myself with them. It just created feelings of lack over and over in me.

You are Original and  Have Your Own Beautiful Life

I needed to change what I was feeling inside. Instead of looking outwardly, why wasn’t I paying attention to my inner self? This was the PERFECT opportunity to take a mirror to my soul and reflect on what I really wanted from my life.

I could see what I could do to transform my life. And that’s exactly what I did.

Have you compared yourself to others before? How did you feel? Please share with me in the comments.