Practice Makes Perfect in Loving Yourself and Doing Inner Work

February 20, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

The journey of loving yourself is not about reaching a specific destination. It’s not about getting there. I’ve done a lot of inner work on myself. I practice meditation, journal, and turn inward to see how I’m feeling daily.

Show Up for Yourself Fully Everyday

But even then, I feel blocks. I feel resistance. This would alarm me. Because I thought after doing this inner work, I should be a pro! I should be gliding through life with ice skates on. But that isn’t always the case.

Show Up for Yourself Every Day

Loving yourself means showing up for yourself every day. This is a constant effort and transformation process. It’s about being fully present every single day and living up to your highest potential.

If You Don’t Feel Great Some Days, Let Yourself Be

You may be saying now: But how can I show up everyday? I won’t be in the same mood every day. I won’t be feeling great every single day.

Well, you are absolutely right! You won’t be in the same mood or state of mind every day. Own any feelings you are feeling. Give yourself the space to embrace them all and let yourself be.

Practice Makes Perfect!

Practice as much as you can to be there for yourself. To take care of yourself and nourish your desires and needs. Practice makes perfect!

What are your thoughts on this post? How do you show up each time for your inner work? Please share with me in the comments.

Stop Questioning Your Decisions – 5 Easy Tips On How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself

February 19, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Are you one of those people who make a decision after much deliberation? Then, immediately after making it, you start to second guess yourself?

Do You Second Guess Your Decisions?

If You Drive Yourself Crazy with Over Analysis….

Then yup, you are a second guesser!! I have family and friends who are second guessers. I can be one sometimes. Though I must say I’ve gotten pretty decisive. I wasn’t always this way. It took me time.

If you aren’t one, then I wanted to share some tips on how you could stop questioning your decisions.

Trust Yourself

When you make a decision, you have to trust yourself. No one makes a decision that isn’t good deliberately. You make a decision based on the circumstances, facts at hand, and your gut feeling at the time. Trust that it is for your higher good.

Go With the Flow

Every moment of the day, we are making decisions. From deciding what to eat for lunch to making a turn to deciding what to say to your boss. Those are all decisions, no matter how big or small. Just go with the flow. Do your best and move on.

Embrace Mistakes

With due time, you may realize you could have made better decisions. And then your mind kicks into overdrive. You whip yourself over what you could or should have done. Well, instead of beating yourself up, become comfortable with your mistakes. They open new paths and teach you a lot.

Relax and Be Kind to Yourself!

Take a deep breathe and be gentle with yourself. Make a decision and let go.

Opportunity for Growth

The decisions you make are opportunities for growth. So whether they turn out the way you expected or not doesn’t matter. They will teach you invaluable lessons about yourself.

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The Value of Building Confidence in Yourself

February 16, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

“I know what it’s like to feel that fear and the need of affirmation and appreciation. To build confidence in yourself is the toughest thing.” – Shakira

I felt fear often in my life. It was linked to not feeling good enough. I wanted and needed affirmation and appreciation from my family and others. I wanted it from a man. I wanted it from strangers.

Self-Confidence is Powerful

Focusing On Loving Yourself

But you can’t get love from loved ones, a man, and others. Or from material objects and possessions. That becomes like a bottomless pit. There is still a void in you.

The only way you can fill yourself up with love is by loving yourself. You must focus on loving yourself for everything you are and accepting yourself wholeheartedly.

Take It Step By Step

Building your confidence is not easy. It is a step by step process. It is a journey.

You can journal your thoughts and feelings. You can do things that make you happy. Do you like to dance? Do you like to write? Do you like to hike?

You can also say affirmations to yourself. For example: You can tell yourself how beautiful and loving you are.

What Are Your Strengths?

The goal is to focus on your strengths. It’s to acknowledge all of your beautiful qualities. And more importantly, it’s to accept your flaws as well and love all of you.

What are your thoughts on this post? How do you build your self-confidence? Please share with me in the comments.

How to Respond When People Judge You

February 13, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

It doesn’t matter where you are in life and what you do. Anywhere you go and wherever you work, you will face a situation where people judge you. They don’t even know you and become judgmental of you. It can bug and stress you out. It can take you away from your comfort zone.

Dealing with Judgment

Don’t Be Judgmental Yourself

First things first, don’t act like the person judging you. Don’t jump to conclusions or make assumptions about them. Otherwise, you are exactly like that person. Don’t be rude or inconsiderate either…

Keep An Open Mind

Keep your head clear and have an open mind. Maybe that person did not have great experiences in the past… Or maybe they are not in a good mood… You can give them the benefit of the doubt.

Choose to Respond Or Not…

This is an important step. In some situations, it’s important to respond accordingly to the judgment. In other scenarios, it’s probably best to let go and take yourself out of the situation to conserve your energy.

Detach Yourself from the Situation

Ultimately, that person’s judgment reflects more about he or she than you. So removing yourself from the situation and detaching yourself might be in your best interest.

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The Beauty of Spending Time Alone

February 11, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Many people feel afraid to spend time with themselves. They need to constantly be surrounded by people. I’ve been the woman who has always enjoyed her space and time. I love being around my family and friends, but I have noticed I needed time immediately afterwards to retreat and unwind.

Self Care and Relaxation

Over the years, I have realized the benefits I have received from taking the time to unwind and spending time with myself.

You Enjoy Your Own Company

You begin to realize you actually enjoy being with yourself. You may think: Wow, I’m a cool person! Why would anyone not want to hang out with me?

On a more serious note, you have fun with yourself. I go to the movies by myself sometimes. I love doing it! It started off with no one wanting to go with me. And then I thought why the heck don’t I watch the movie anyway…

You Are More in Touch with Yourself

When you’re alone, there is no noise or distractions. You become more connected to your inner self and guidance. You can tap into your magical wisdom to guide you in your life.

You Learn to Rely On Yourself

You also learn one of the most important lessons of life: to rely on yourself. To become self-sufficient.

You Become Your Source of Happiness

You learn to fill yourself up with the feelings you desire, instead of depending on someone or an external event or circumstance. You become your own source of happiness and peace.

What is your biggest takeaway from this post? Please share with me in the comments!

Priyanka Yadvendu

Answers to Joy, Intimacy, Security, Family & Romantic Relationships for 20-Something Women