Being patient when you’re actually not is not an easy task. But patience is an underrated quality in today’s world. Instant gratification seems to become the norm today. Everyone wants everything quick!

I believe cultivating patience is an important quality and key in developing your character and the ability to let great things and people enter your life, rather than settling.

Keep A Journal

I regularly write in my journal and it helps for me to jot down how I’m feeling and what I am experiencing. As a person, fortunately, I have loads of patience, but when it came to hearing from my literary agent on whether she would represent my novel, I started feeling bouts of impatience.

The entire process took about six months from reading the first pages to a partial request to a full request to a bio request to finally hearing the great news! Gosh, I would feel swings of excitement and anxiety. I wrote in my journal to cope with my feelings.

Focus on Your Life

When you’re waiting or wanting something great to enter your life, a good way to deal with the frenzy emotional swings is by focusing on other areas of your life.

I spend time with my friends and family. I enjoy my life by going to the movies, listening to music, etc. I read books. I breathe. I simply live my life. When you’re busy, you won’t have time to think about anything else.

Let the Process Unfold

Being busy and journaling are great ways to learn to be patient. But it’s also important to realize being patient means letting the process unfold. There is a time for action and there is a time for you to step out of the way and let life takes its course.

What tools do you use to be patient? Please share with me in the comments.

Do you have Goddess energy? It has nothing to do with your looks, sexuality, and even personality. Goddess energy is deeper than that. It’s a way of thinking. It’s a way of living your life that comes from a place of self-love and respect.

Every Woman Has this IT Factor

Every woman has this gorgeous energy. Even if you don’t think you do, you have it indeed. It’s hidden in some corner of your soul, wanting to get out and show the world.

Being Grounded in Your Self-Love

You can possess this magical energy only if you come from a place of love. You must love yourself, including your flaws. This is even deeper than confidence. It’s easy to feel secure and happy when everything is going great in your life.

But how do you feel when things aren’t going great? Is the love you have for yourself stronger? Or does it shrivel away? When you can still be open and love yourself when things aren’t going great, you have Goddess energy. Because having faith in yourself with no evidence being shown is the stuff real faith is made of.

Be Emotionally Open

You are connected to your emotional energy. The difference between a man and woman is women are more in touch with their emotions. It’s what causes men to fall hopelessly in love. It’s what makes women good girlfriends, wives, daughters, friends, etc. A woman’s emotions can move the world.

So drop those emotional walls down. Allow your warmth to come to the surface. You don’t need to pretend to act frosty when you’re melting inside. This includes being honest to yourself, a man, or anyone else.

Keep Your Heart Open

Many times, women close their heart and shut themselves when a relationship doesn’t work out. Or a certain experience scars them. This is the time when you should keep your heart open more than ever. Don’t close yourself off from the world.

A woman with Goddess energy will not let an experience scar her view of love, truth, and all the beauty life has to offer. Instead, she will keep her heart open, even when it is cracked and she’s hurting. Because she knows the only real way to live her life is not to live it numbly, but openly, so all the beauty and miracles life has to offer can pour into her life.

Know You’re Worth It

No matter what she’s going through, a Goddess will know she IS worth it. Always. No exceptions. She knows she deserves to be in a healthy relationship and a career she feels fulfilled with.

If a situation doesn’t work, she’ll dust herself off and get up again. She won’t be petty and forgive herself and the people involved.

Magnetize Others with Being Grounded

When you are grounded, you are not afraid to take the path less taken. Even if that means not having everyone’s support. Even if that means you may lose something or a guy in your life. You make choices coming from a self-dignified place.

When you are so connected to your inner self and lead your life in a love-driven way, people and men will notice that. And they will be magnetized by that energy.

Do you tap into your Goddess energy? Please share with me in the comments.

I remember hearing the song “Miss Independent” by Ne-Yo. I would hit the play button over and over. I was obsessed with watching the video! In the song, Ne-Yo sings how he’s in love with the woman because she’s an independent woman.

It led me to think how every woman should be an independent woman. Here’s how you can be!

Handle Your Career and Life

Have a grip on the practical aspects of your life and career. Don’t depend on anyone for that. I took initiative and made my novel Enchanted Silence happen. I didn’t wait for anyone to whip up any magic. I whipped up my own magic.

I take care of my rent, money, bills, etc. Handling your life will make you self-efficient and feel confident.

Set Boundaries in Work and Personal Lives

Whether you’re at the workplace or in your personal life, make sure you set boundaries. Know what you are capable of and understand your own strengths and weaknesses. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.

Also, be clear about how much you are willing to take on, whether it’s at the workplace or in a relationship. Communicate your desires.

Have Healthy Relationships

This one is huge. Your friendships and relationships with your family and romantic partners should be healthy. In other words, it should bring out your best and be simple for you to communicate your desires.

Don’t be Afraid to be Vulnerable and Ask For Help

Lastly, being an independent woman does not mean you can’t be emotionally vulnerable. Allow yourself to feel and open up. And ask for help and guidance when you crave it.

Why is being independent important to you? Please share with me in the comments!

Whether I was going to work or going out, I pretty much looked the same. I wore a simple pair of jeans and a T-shirt.

It was the most comfortable outfit! If I had my way, I would wear sweats all the time, too…

The Importance of Looking Your Best

Whether you step into a social or business situation, the first thing people will notice is how you carry yourself and look.

I can speak the same for myself. When I meet others for the first time, my eyes flicker naturally to their face and grooming. It’s just the way it is. It’s the only metric you have when you first meet someone.

Why not present your best self in these situations by dressing up your best?

Feel Confident in Social Situations

Always feel secure and beautiful inside regardless of how you’re dressed outside. But it certainly does help your confidence when you dress up and go out in parties or social events.

The key is to not be dependent on feeling this way through your dressing. I dress up for myself because it makes me feel gorgeous inside and I love that others compliment me. (Please tell me which woman doesn’t like compliments!) I want my inner beauty to shine outside.

Dress to Impress While Gaining Business Relationships

A key part in gaining and maintaining business relationships is dressing to impress. Always be well groomed and dress professionally when you mingle with business folks.

It shows you are serious about yourself and also a great way to express your individuality in a classy way.

Why is dressing up and looking your best important to you? Please share with me in the comments.