6 Ways Guys Play Games in Dating and Relationships

February 1, 2015 by Priyanka 4 Comments

The initial stage of dating and a relationship is beautiful and exciting. You don’t know if he’s going to call you back and when he does, you jump up in joy! That first kiss…

Guys Playing Games

But that stage right afterwards when you settle into a somewhat of a comfortable routine. You both know each other relatively well by this point. And then it starts….The Boy Games Officially Begin.

Here Are 6 Signals:

He Does Not Call or Text as Often…

Suddenly, he doesn’t call or text you as frequently. The reason why you notice it? Because you begin to like him and look forward to your conversations with him. So when he does this, it becomes very obvious.

He Makes Unreasonable Demands

He’ll want to do things or go places that he knows you don’t like.

Stops Being Affectionate With You

This one can be a major signal. He doesn’t compliment you as much. He pretends to play it cool and act like he didn’t notice that new dress or necklace. He doesn’t hold your hand or show physical affection.

Gives the Silent Treatment

Ah, isn’t this one fun, ladies?! He gives you the total ignore. He does not attempt to communicate with you. This one can be very annoying and frustrating!

Talks In Monosyllables

I’ve personally had this happen to me so much. And I must confess I don’t like it one bit! It really gets me worked up. And if you probe further and ask what’s wrong, he’ll persist answering in monosyllables.

Why Do Men Play Games?

All these signals happen sometimes because the guy is testing you to see how you will react to him. Or perhaps to see how much you are into him. It doesn’t make the games right.

However, it is up to you to decide how you want to deal with the situation. You can choose to ignore it and keep a calm head. Or you can speak to him directly and tell him you do not like these games.

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Does Your Boyfriend Think You’re Not Good Enough for Him?

January 30, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

There are some men who feel they aren’t good enough for the woman. But what about the exact opposite scenario? What if your guy thinks you’re not good enough for him? That most likely means you’re not dating the right person.

Never Think You’re Not Good Enough for Anyone

Here are 6 signs:

He Likes to Talk About Himself More Than You

He loves talking about himself. He talks about his job, family, hobbies, basically everything under the sun. That too, without you asking questions about those topics. That’s a clear sign of a self-absorbed man who doesn’t respect your opinion and persona.

He Does Not Ask You Any Questions About Yourself

This one ties into the previous point. Chances are if he keeps talking about himself, he probably barely asks you any questions about yourself. He barely shows any interest in your life.

Drops Snide Remarks or Comments by Way of Conversation

He drops rude comments through conversations with you or about you around friends and/or strangers. I had this happen to me once. I liked this guy once who I brought to my home to meet my family. He would jokingly, but you could tell he meant it, kept saying that I was stupid. That obviously meant he didn’t find me good enough.

He Does Not Value Your Time

He does not care to meet you. And if he does, he meets you on his own terms. He fits you into his schedule, not the other way around.

He Flirts With Girls In Front of You

He doesn’t care if you’re around. He’ll flirt shamelessly with your friends or other women in front of you.

You’re Never Good Enough

In other words, anything you do or say is never good enough for him. He finds faults in you and finds opportunities to belittle you.

If you are with someone who meets some or all of the above signs, then it’s a clear, strong indicator that you must reassess and reconsider your relationship with him. Remember you deserve someone who honors and respects you.

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6 Ways to Volunteer Together As A Couple on Dates

January 28, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

This is the perfect time to spend some time outside the house and enjoy the outdoors and spend time together whether you are in a relationship, marriage, or just dating. And why not do it while doing something meaningful at the same time?!

Win-Win Situation Folks…

Volunteer Together on a Date

If you’ve started dating, the key would be to volunteer on subsequent dates, rather than the first one since the first date is more about getting to know each other.

And if your relationship or marriage is starting to get stuck in a routine, then perhaps volunteering can make things interesting!

Here are some tips on volunteering as a couple:

Volunteer Together At An Animal Shelter

Nothing can be more adorable than helping those furry animals.

Spend Some Time At A Foster Care with Underprivileged Children

It will give you the opportunity to glimpse into how he or she mingles with children!

Volunteer Abroad

Go to Thailand or Africa and help be a part of change by teaching kids English or support a micro-finance project for impoverished women in rural areas. Either way, you’ll get a terrific vacation and spend quality time together.

Want to combine travel with giving back? Here are the 7 Best Websites for Volunteering Abroad

Help Out At A Soup Kitchen!

Would be kind of romantic to serve food together…

Hang Out At A Nursing Home with Seniors

Great way to make a difference in seniors’ lives and kind of romantic to do this together as a couple…

Organize A Fundraiser

Set up a bake sale or party event at a bar or club or anywhere convenient.

Invite your friends and tell them to invite others as well and have a merry time, all the while donating a portion of the proceeds to a worthy cause.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments!

* This blog post appeared originally on My Pure Intuition

Chicken Soup for the Soul Friday – The Abusive Boyfriend in San Francisco

January 26, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Be a Caring, Loving Boyfriend

Here’s another Chicken Soup for the Soul Friday from my earlier blog.

“Recently, I was in San Francisco in the morning and very loud and unpleasant noise filled my ears. I pulled off my ear plugs to hear what the commotion was about. A young man, in his early to mid-twenties was screaming at a young woman and pushing her.

Now, when you’re in the city, there’s already enough noise and energy that most people are indifferent to people yelling. But this guy was hurling all kinds of swear words at this girl who looked to be his girlfriend.

Another lady dressed in business formal clothe started to yell at this young man to leave the girl alone and he yelled back at her to mind her own business and the entire block stopped in their tracks and pulled off their cell phone, ear plugs, or whatever else was adorning their ears.

It was amazing how no one, including myself, stopped and approached the young guy who was physically and verbally abusing this woman, but this lady actually had the guts to scream at the man to stay away from the young woman.

But it also saddened me how some men, especially that young, was treating a woman in an appalling manner. It makes me shudder to think how he behaves with women in privacy, when that’s how he’s like in public.” – Priyanka

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4 Easy Ways to be Comfortable With Your Sexuality

January 24, 2015 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

If you ask me how I feel about myself sexually, then I can give you a pretty clear, comfortable answer today. I am an extremely sexual person and love that side of me. But when I was in college and my early twenties, there was a shame and embarrassment around my sexuality.

Be Comfortable with Your Sexuality

A large part of it had to do with growing up in an Indian family. There was no talk about sex and so I discovered my views on it on my own. Here are some ways I helped myself become more comfortable with my sexuality:

Being Sexual is a Decision

Before you can do any of the steps I mention next, you will have to make the decision to be sexual. It has to be a truthful decision because only then can you look at your sexuality in a healthy way.

Take a Mirror and Look Down There

You’ll never learn about your tastes and preferences until you don’t see what’s down there. Your private parts are a beautiful part of your body. In your privacy, take a mirror and look what’s there. Develop a healthy curiosity.

Get Some Sexy Clothes!

Sexy clothes can mean lingerie. But it doesn’t have to be limited to only this. Go to the mall or shop online for whatever connects to your sexual taste. What turns you on? What makes you feel like a woman? What makes you feel uninhibited? It could even be as simple as wearing a T-Shirt and strolling around your place.

Self-Pleasure is Normal and Highly Recommended

Women who display sexual confidence are often those who have explored their bodies. They understand their needs and wants in detail. They are well aware of their sexual preferences. And one of the best ways to do this is to practice the art of self-pleasure (or masturbating).