Men are simple creatures when you think about it. They are probably not as complicated as women. When you peel back their layers, there are a few fundamental needs he has. And when met, he can become yours for life. He can see you as his ultimate dream woman.

A Man Has a Basic Need to Protect

Just about every man on this planet has the desire to protect their loved ones. It’s so ingrained in him that he doesn’t even probably realize it. It’s part of their programming.

When I spend time with my family, I see this desire crop up even in my brother. It can be as simple as we are traveling to a foreign country and he makes sure he is close by to us. He tells me and my sister to be careful and cautious.

In your romantic partner, give him the space and opportunities to rise up to the occasion. When the going gets tough, let him take charge. He wants you to rely on him. It’s something very instinctual for him. He wants to be your hero 🙂

He Wants to Provide

I saw this quality in my father frequently over the years… Even today, my father has this strong desire to provide for his family. Even though I am an adult and can take care of myself well, he wants to share his wisdom and help. I used to become irritated and tell him I already know how to do some things.

So now, even though I know how to do certain things, I just let my father have his moment. I let him show me how to do something. His face bursts with happiness. He makes me feel like a provider.

You can do the same for your man. Let him provide for you. If he wants to pay for a meal or help you on something, accept it wholeheartedly. It will make him a very happy man.

The Need to Be Appreciated

Most people think only women need to be complimented. Men also have the desire to be appreciated! Shower him with compliments from time to time. Make sure they are genuine, of course. You know your man well, so you know how often to compliment him and what to say.

Nurture Him By Believing in Him

The greatest way to nurture a man and have him think of no one else but you is to believe in him. I don’t mean in a superficial way. Really in your gut, have that feeling that you believe in him. Believe in his dreams and desires. Be there for him. And he will always be there for you…

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Do you have your eyes set on a guy? Do you really like him, but don’t like everything about him? Are you trying to change him to fit your perceptions and standards?

A Man is Not a Project

But a man is not a project or house to fix. He is not your personal project. How many times does a woman do this? They try to change the man to fit her personal tastes and notions of what an ideal man is.

Well, the man can smell that and if he gets a whiff of what you are trying to do, he won’t like it.

Think about it for a moment. If a man was trying to do the same, you probably wouldn’t like it either.

Let the Man Evolve Naturally

Instead of trying to “fix” him, why not let the man evolve naturally? I’m not saying that you have to like everything about him. What I am saying is you have to accept and embrace everything about him, including his flaws. See the beauty in his flaws, too.

Rather than making him your personal project, focus on your own life and making yourself the best possible version you can for yourself. That’s a lot of energy to put into a man. You want him to evolve on his own, by his own accord and decision.

Related: The Greatest Way to Nurture A Guy is to Believe In Him

Uplift Him to Do His Best

You can instead inspire him to do and be best. You can both uplift each other to reach one another’s highest potential.

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There are many articles and blogs about how to deal with a breakup. They are not easy and often messy. You hear of those “mutual” breakups in Hollywood? I don’t know how true they are in everyday, real life, but if you go through a messy one, know that there are some steps you can take to pull yourself out of the sadness and confusion.

Let Yourself Go Through the Tears

This one is probably the most important step. You don’t want to slap on a band-aid over your pain. You want to actually deal with the pain and feel the confusion and emotions. Relationships are about emotional connection and when they end, your emotions are going to be all over the place.

Go through the tears. Mope around your house. Eat take out. Do whatever you need to do. Call your girlfriend and cry your eyes out. Be patient with yourself. Take however much time you need in the process.

Don’t Rehash the Same Story

Once you go through the previous step and feel like you are in a saner place, try not to rehash the same story in your head over and over. This is when it’s important to immerse yourself in activities that make you feel happy. It’s when you surround yourself with friends and loved ones.

Acceptance

Going through this experience means you have to accept and let go. This breakup may have been very well against your plans, but you must surrender to the events unfolding. You have to accept because there is a greater reason behind it.

Find Peace Within

Seek inner peace inside. Do some meditation. Go for a talk. Do whatever brings you into the present moment and allows you to dive deeper into your heart.

Move Forward

If you feel comfortable, dip your toe in the dating pool. Or stay single and make a romance out of your own life. Either way, gently move forward.

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Some girls love it when their boyfriend is possessive. It means he cares and loves her. But what if your boyfriend takes it too far? When his possessiveness takes on a threatening and controlling tone, then it’s time to do something about it.

Keep An Eye for Signs of Possessiveness

How does he exactly behave when he is possessive? What does he do? How does his tone and voice change? Observe these responses closely. You’ll start to notice what triggers that behavior. Is it for a specific person he becomes this way? Or anyone you spend time with in general?

Related: 6 Ways Guys Play Games in Dating and Relationships

Talk It Out

Sit down and have a conversation with him. Tell him how you feel. Make him understand how much you love him and care for him. If it’s about a guy or specific person, then perhaps have a lunch or coffee with that person and your boyfriend, so he can understand your relationship with that person.

Make Him Busy and Spend Quality Time With Him

After the conversation, make an effort to spend quality time with him. Give him your complete attention. Keep him busy with activities he loves to do with you, so his mind won’t dwell on those possessive thoughts and doubts.

Be Firm, If Need Be

If your boyfriend is taking it too far, then it’s time for you to be firm and direct. If he’s not giving you any space or telling you what to wear or controlling other aspects of your life, you need to tell him that you do not like it and that it hurts you.

Consider the Option of Breaking Up

If this type of behavior persists or even overlaps into harassment, then it’s time for you to consider breaking up with him for good.

Have you ever been in this situation? How did you deal with a possessive boyfriend or husband? Please share with me in the comments.