Dates are meant to be fun, flirty, and oh so delicious! I love going on dates. I feel it’s an opportunity for my sensuality and femininity to come out.

Share Your Personality in Cute Ways on A Date

Another important byproduct of going on dates? Hint: It has to do with yourself!

Going on dates is like a getting a glimpse or snapshot into your and his personalities. It’s the perfect way to share your personality and life.

Express Through Stories

A great way to reveal your personality in a cute way is through stories. You can tell a story about yourself. It can be funny, goofy, or emotional.

For example: I tell a story about how I klutzy I am. I tell a date about the time I fell down the stairs in college. This tells him that I don’t take myself too seriously and am light-hearted. That I feel comfortable with myself. That I have a goofy, dorky side.

Be Witty and Flirty

Another cute way to reveal parts of your personality is to be witty and create that tug and pull game of tension. It’s a great way to flirt and go back and forth.

I once told a date this: “Did I mention I like guys with scruffy beards?” It made him smile and kind of blush at the same time 🙂

Ask Him Questions

Ask your date some questions that get him to open up. Ask him: What is the greatest moment of your life? Depending on how he answers that question, you can learn a lot about his emotional motivation and personality.

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Many women believe you have to play games to get a guy hooked and interested. Maybe some mind games and mental stimulation can be fun! But it’s important to overall not play games in the dating stage.

Playing Games in Dating

I’ve learned from personal experience that there are some easy tips you can follow to move out of playing games and getting more real. Ultimately, dating and relationships require a genuine, authentic connection which means being real.

Be ACTUALLY Busy. Don’t Fake It

Ladies, when you first start dating someone and actually like him, you will feel butterflies in your stomach. You’ll want to call and text him all the time.

Then, you’ll notice he’ll start to back away. At this point, you may either get into overdrive and contact him more. Or you’ll play hard to get and minimize your contact.

I believe it is important to take a step back and not contact him as much. But the vital point here is to not fake being busy, but to ACTUALLY make yourself busy. Make it authentic and create a life that you love with or without him.

Be Honest About How You Are Feeling

It doesn’t matter what stage you are in the dating or relationship stage. Take the time to tell him how you feel. Express your feelings. Don’t push your feelings away. If you feel nervous and scared about something, then tell him.

Don’t psyche yourself out of doing this by worrying about his reaction. If anything, it will help you better judge how well suited he is for you in your life.

Just Be Yourself

Lastly, just be who you are. You are beautiful and lovable exactly the way you are. Drop your walls and become vulnerable. This is how an authentic connection is formed between two humans, be it friendship or romantic relationships.

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How many times in dating and relationships did you want the guy to call you? Did you want your boyfriend to move your relationship to the next level? Sigh. Take a deep breathe, ladies.

Let the Man Step Up

Been There, Done That

I’ve been there, ladies. I know EXACTLY where you’re coming from. Often, I wanted a guy to take the initiative and call me. Or I wanted him to take our relationship to the next level.

And then I tried hard. I pushed hard. I tried to be kind. I tried to be understanding. I really wanted things to work with him.

Related: The Greatest Way to Nurture A Guy is to Believe In Him

You Can’t Force A Man to Do Something…

The truth is you cannot force a man to do anything. You can’t sweetly manipulate him to do things. And even if you do manage to “manipulate” him to do something, do you really want to get your way through this?

You want a man to make a decision to call you, love you, and take your relationship to the next level out of a loving place. You want him to do it from his own heart. You want him to feel happy doing these things, not feeling pushed or compelled to do so.

Give Him the Space to Step Up

I believe the single most important thing you can do to let a man rise up to the occasion is to give him the space. When you try to push and take action, you’re not letting him become the man he needs to be.

I’ll give you a simple example. You want him to call you in the initial dating phase. Don’t call him. I don’t mean you shouldn’t take initiative. Do call once or twice. But if he doesn’t take initiative himself, then don’t go crazy and act out of fear.

Don’t keep calling him. Stop. Breathe. Live your life. Let him call you. Give him the space. This applies to anything in any stage during your relationship.

What if he still doesn’t step up? I have only one question for you: Why would you want to be with such a man? You are a beautiful and loving woman who deserves a wonderful man who steps up for you.

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