Have you ever clung onto a situation or person out of fear? Did you think if you let go that it would be equivalent to quitting and giving up?

If you think this way, then don’t be hard on yourself. We have all been there. I often thought this way. I could never let go of a situation or person. I wanted to hold on with all my might, even when it was emotionally taxing.

Here are some ways to find out if it’s time for you to quit and move on:

When You Expect a Situation or Person to Change

If you keep wishing something or someone to change even after so much time passing, then it’s time to move on.

A Situation or Person Causes You More Pain than Happiness

I learned this one personally. If you’ve done everything you can and the situation or person still brings you pain, then you need to let go. Sometimes, it takes a lot more strength to let this situation or person go from your life.

You Feel Emotionally Exhausted

If all you’re feeling is exhausted in a friendship, relationship, work or personal situation, then despite your fears, leave it and move forward.

You’re Trying Too Hard to Hold On to Something or a Person

Ah. I have done this. I realized you should never have to hold onto something or a person. If it’s a part of your divine destiny, then you don’t need to try hard. Everything will flow smoothly and beautifully.

You’re Holding On Out of Fear there isn’t Someone or Something Better

There is someone or something better for you! Don’t let your fears and self limiting beliefs get in the way. Sometimes, letting go is life’s way of handing you what and who is perfect for you.

Have you clung onto something or someone out of fear? What is your biggest takeaway from this post? Please share with me in the comments.

All of us want success in our lives. We put high expectations on yourself and want to stretch our boundaries. This is a good thing because this is how you grow and evolve. Moving out of your comfort zone helps you to reach new levels.

What is Your Definition of Success?

But sometimes, too much emphasis is put on achieving milestone after milestone and not enough on the process and the feelings. If you don’t hit on these targets, then you feel anxious. You feel nervous. I felt this often as a recruiter. My feeling good was linked to how many placements I had.

But it’s important to understand to not get caught up in this. Create your own definition of success. You don’t need to follow the same definition as others.

Don’t Wait for Success to Feel Successful and Happy

Often, you wait for something to happen for you to feel successful. Maybe your goal is to have a profitable business, so you wait to feel happy and pride when it becomes profitable. But why not start to create those feelings now?

Why not feel successful starting this very moment? You are in charge of your feelings. When you start doing this, success will come to you anyway. And you’ll also let life flow magically.

Enjoy the Process

Focusing on the present moment and creating feelings of success NOW lets you enjoy the process. You go with the flow and live life to the fullest.

What is your definition of success? Please share with me in the comments.

A huge lesson I learned in the midst of all the chaotic things that happened in my life the past couple years is: The importance of finding long-term solutions.

Stop With the Temporary Band-Aid Solutions

Over and over, this seemed to shout at me in my love life, professional life, and finances. I saw it play out in my family so many times. When things exploded in my family’s faces right after my father had a stroke, I wish I could say that everything happened out of the blue.

But I Would just be Lying…

I wanted to throw my hands in the air and ask God why he was doing this to me and my family. I did do this many times. I can smile about it now, but at the time, it was an intense period in my life. I was too busy doing and barely had time to eat food, so forget about thinking.

I was trying to manage my family’s convenience store business while working full-time and making calls to somehow get insurance coverage for my dad. It was chaos.

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I Dived Deep into My Heart

Until much later, I found time to reflect. I realized everything occurring was the making of several years. It was the collective thoughts of me and my family. We barely uttered anything positive and never dealt with anything. I finally noticed my family was only searching for short-term band aid solutions.

We were happy temporarily, before something else occurred. This year, I made it my mission to deal with all my fears head on and find long-term solutions. To stare at everything so clearly and face all our fears so daringly, that I could transform my and my family’s lives for only the better.

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I listen to many life coaches and mentors’ interviews and radio episodes online. I enjoy listening about he or she found their calling in life and how things fell into place for he or she to live an inspired life.

The danger with listening to such stories sometimes is happiness sounds like a glamorous destination. But it’s not. It’s a feeling that you can create in yourself moment by moment.

Way of Life

Happiness is a way of life. It is something you must practice everyday. You don’t get the magical pill of happiness and suddenly you’re happy all the time. It’s something you incorporate into your life every day. You figure out what makes you happy and you incorporate these moments as much as you can into your life.

Eating healthy, having a fulfilling career, having enriching relationships, and taking time out for your interests all contribute to you being happy.

Your State of Mind

You don’t need to take off on a luxurious vacation to feel happy. Though who wouldn’t take this opportunity, right! I had a boss who was super rich and owned several homes in the Bay Area. But you could tell she was crumbling inside and would take off on vacations often. But she would cut her trip short and return early to work. Even when she traveled across the world, she couldn’t find peace and stillness.

Feeling Happiness even in Midst of Chaos

Cultivating the habit to create moments of happiness is important and the early you do it, the better. Life throws all sorts of curve balls your way. Life becomes chaotic, but finding your center in the midst of chaos is true happiness.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments!