Why I Listen to My Heart’s Desire and Got a Trainer Again

October 16, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

I got a trainer last year around November. It was one of the best decisions I made! I’m in relatively good shape, but still have some fat on my body, especially my stomach area. Instead of working out mindlessly at the gym coupled with my confidence taking a hit in my personal life, I decided to sign up with a personal trainer.

Own Your Desire

Got Amazing Results!

I signed up for about 10 sessions. And they were pricey! I found the best personal training facility in my town (according to Yelp reviews) and went for it. My trainer, a young guy named Jeremy, was awesome! His expert advice and training caused me to shed around 10 or more pounds. I looked much thinner and toned. More than that, mentally I was sharper and could focus better. I also had regained my confidence.

I signed up for another 20 sessions and those ended sometime in early April of this year. I got busy with my book and personal life, so I stopped.

But I Found Myself Slipping Again….

I made giant strides in other parts of my life, but somehow physically, I felt like my energy was going for a toss. I wasn’t feeling that excited about going to the gym. Though I hadn’t gained any weight and took care of my dieting, I hadn’t shed any more pounds either.

I couldn’t focus as well either. I didn’t feel so fresh as well.

Owned My Desire

For two months, my mind battled whether I should go back to my trainer. It would help me become more energetic and go through the weight training I no longer did. I only ran at the gym on the tread mill after my training ended. I kept thinking it would be expensive and how could I make the money appear.

But then, I decided to own my desire. I listened to my intuition. It was telling me to go back to my trainer and get more toned.

The Money Shows Up

When I owned my desire and showed up fully, the money came to me. And it always does. Somehow, the money came and I enrolled with my trainer again. And this time for 50 sessions!! I hope I look like Shakira by the end of it…

Own your desires and let the Universe take care of the how’s and when’s.

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How to Deal with Long Distance Love – 4 Must Know Things!

October 15, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Long distance love is tricky, but can be lasting and successful as long as lots of understanding and care are thrown into the mix. I have some friends who are in this type of relationship and here are some pointers they have given me!

Long Distance Love

Be Clear About Expectations

I wouldn’t suggest going with the flow in this kind of relationship. It’s better to have a frank, open discussion from the outset and plan some things ahead. Where do you both see this going? Why do you want to do this? These are important questions to ask now, so you can ensure you’re both on the same page.

Enjoy Your Time Together and Space

Don’t feel guilty about the arrangement. Sometimes, life gets in the way, and you have to make the most of what you have. If this was by choice, you two would be living near each other. But that’s not the case, so cherish the time you spend together and enjoy the space away. Cultivate other interests and socialize and explore other facets of your personality.

Remember Why You’re Doing this

There will not be easy moments in this relationship. You’ll start to wonder why you’re doing this. The physical and emotional support are not the same in a long distance relationship. But think about why you’re doing this in the first place. Be honest to yourself. If those reasons still ring true to you, then it will make it easier for you.

Spice Up Your Relationship

The spark can still be there. Here’s the secret: be creative! You can whisper dirty nothings through the phone or Skype. Or send naughty text messages randomly. Even when you’re not physically present, he’ll miss you and feel your presence.

Have you experienced a long distance relationship? Please share with me in the comments.

5 Reasons Why Angelina Jolie is Irresistible to Men

October 8, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

You can hate her or love her, but you sure can’t ignore Angelina Jolie. Everyone on the planet has an opinion about her. I find her to be intriguing, but what really fascinates me is how irresistible she is to men.

Ravishing Woman: Angelina Jolie

I believe these reasons can be applicable to any women and ultimately cause us to be truer to who we are and also more ravishing to men at the same time.

Here are the top five reasons:

Has a Mind of Her Own

When you watch Angelina Jolie’s interviews, you can immediately tell this is a woman who expresses her viewpoints without hesitation and possesses an intellectual mind. Even the subjects of her films are those that make strong political and social statements.

Lives Life on Her Own Terms

She lives life according to her terms. Right after her split with Billy Bob Thornton, she adopted her kids. She writes scripts and directs movies on subjects that are controversial and many would not usually choose.

Does Not Care What the World Thinks About her

She is labeled a home wrecker until this day, but she does not care what the world thinks about her. She seems happy in love with Brad Pitt and continues to touch the hearts of many in the world with her charity work and films.

Feels Comfortable in Her Sexiness

When you see her in interviews or in public with Brad Pitt and children, she appears sexy even in a pair of jeans. She is clearly comfortable with her sensuality and embraces this side of her.

Embraces Her Dark, Edgy Side

When she was younger, she did all sorts of crazy things, most not recommended to be done. Though I don’t advocate to do the same things, it’s obvious that she embraces her edgy side and does not dismiss her past, even though she has evolved today.

What can you take away from this post? Please share with me in the comments.

5 Tips on How to be Sexy and Still be Yourself

October 1, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Feeling sexy is not reserved to Angelina Jolie or Beyonce. It’s a quality every woman can cultivate in themselves.

Wild Sensuality

Sexiness is a Feeling

Sexiness is a state of mind. It’s about being comfortable with you are. Being comfortable to be in your own skin. Not feeling like you have to put on any pretenses. Being open and connected to your emotional side.

Being Grounded

Immerse yourself in who you are as a person. Don’t pretend to be someone else. For example: I love reading books and watching films. I like immersing myself in creativity. I don’t change that for anyone. I stay true to that aspect of my personality.

Grounded also means not compromising on your integrity and coming from a place of self-dignity. Men and the world will find you sexy for this reason.

It’s a Habit, too

Honestly, I used to think I could feel sexy only on certain occasions. Like if I was going to a party or on a date. But you should be able to feel and be sexy whenever you want. I know certain things that trigger that feeling in me and sometimes even on a normal evening after work, I do those things to evoke the feeling in me.

Say Positive Things to Yourself

Tell yourself out loud that you are gorgeous and sexy. Say it in the morning and before going to sleep. See the change.

Indulge in things you enjoy to evoke the feeling

As I mentioned earlier, I do things that evoke the feeling of sexiness in me. Sometimes, on a random evening, I’ll put on eye liner and lip gloss. I also read quotes a lot to make me feel internally confident and sexy in turn.

How do you feel sexy? Please share with me in the comments.

Ladies, Please Use Protection When Engaging in Sexual Activity!

September 22, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

I don’t know what your personal stance is on sex. You may not agree with me as well. But that’s fine, everyone is entitled to their personal opinion. You may be waiting until marriage to engage in sexuality activity.

Protection and Safe Sex

If you are not, I would highly suggest using protection.

Protect Yourself

First and foremost, you are safeguarding yourself from STIs (sexually transmitted infections) and STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). If you’re not ready to become pregnant but want to be intimate with your partner, using a condom or some form of birth control is a good idea.

Protect Your Partner

It’s only responsible to also protect your partner’s health and body. Sex is beautiful and intimate and obviously it requires both partners’ consent. There should be open, clear communication between both partners. Before you engage in any sexual activity, sit down and have a chat with your partner about what his thoughts are on protection.

It’s always best to be on the same page. If he or she doesn’t feel comfortable using protection, then you should communicate your desires and reasons. Be calm and reasonable. If he or she still doesn’t agree, then it’s up to you to make a final call. Whatever your decision, make sure you are always comfortable and don’t get pressured to do anything you don’t want.

Sexual Activity Can Still Be Enjoyable

There’s a misconception that using protection diminishes your pleasure and satisfaction during sex. That is not true, many couples and partners have experienced pleasure.

Here is another great resource to learn more about protection, sex, and body image featured from my earlier blog, an Interview With Adela.

Adela is certified to provide basic family planning education and has worked as a reproductive health educator since 2011. She provides education about contraception and STDs to teens, college students, and also presents to parents on how they can communicate with their children about reproductive health.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments.

Priyanka Yadvendu

Answers to Joy, Intimacy, Security, Family & Romantic Relationships for 20-Something Women