Drama is fun and exciting, but it can also be dangerous. It’s kind of like fire in some ways. If used effectively, can warm you. If not, then we know its effects in forests… Either way, it spreads fast and within seconds.

Avoid Drama

Drama at Work?

In my last job, there was lots of drama. Every day, some situation or the other would pop up. I wasn’t even necessarily involved in them. But being a small office, one person’s drama became everyone’s drama.

Even I found it very amusing and entertaining. I loved to hear stories and would laugh my colleagues about the latest tidbit of outrageous gossip.

But it can suck out your love-driven energy. I found myself focusing less on my self and on the drama instead. It became addictive actually.

Drama in Your Personal Life?

That hasn’t escaped me either. Whether it has been romantically or with my friendships, there has been drama, too. And it didn’t even have to do with me! The one thing I noticed about drama is it can from a fear-driven energy. When you start to absorb that energy, it translates in other areas of your life, too.

Causes You to Lose Focus On Yourself

I would get sucked into other people’s words and lives. I was living someone else’s drama and lives! And I stopped living mine.

What do you do then? 

Gracefully get out of it and don’t spend time on the drama. Spend that energy on living your vision instead.

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Do you like to say yes frequently? This is one of the things I have been working on myself. I am a people pleaser and feel pressure to say yes even when I don’t want to sometimes. Even when there is no pressure on me to say yes! I just create it myself!

Say Yes to No!

How do You Deal with This?

Firstly, you must realize you are saying yes to everything. You should start to consciously pay attention when you start doing this.

How does your body react? Does your body feel stiff and tight all of a sudden?

Do you start to clam up? Observe your reactions closely.

Take Baby Steps to Say No

When you’re not comfortable with saying no and feel every urge to say yes even though you don’t want to, take baby steps.

Make it easy for you. Be gentle towards yourself. Understand that you have a right to put your needs and desires first. Say no to simple things like your choice of meal, going for a night out when you don’t want to…

Don’t Avoid the Answer

I have seen too many people do this. When they don’t want to say yes but feel uncomfortable in saying no, they avoid the entire matter altogether.

You actually end up not doing any good to your friendship or professional relationship. Think about it. Though you may not have been happy with a friend or professional contact’s response, you likely appreciated that they were direct to the point politely. You could move forward in a clear direction after their direct response.

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Usually, you have clear expectations from your family, friends, and colleagues. But what about yourself?

Honest Expectations

So I decided to create a contract for myself. I listed all the things I expected from myself to live my life with dignity and love.

Setting Your Expectations Makes It Clear For You

When you know your expectations from yourself clearly, you can live your life aligned to your highest truth.

You will know your priorities in life and be able to spend your energy and time only on things that matter to you.

Find Power and Peace in Your Actions

When the motivation behind your actions is clear, you will find power in your actions. Every step you take will move you forward in life. You will know exactly why you are doing anything.

Ever since I wrote the my expectations down, I find myself living my life in a way that’s aligned to my love-fueled energy. For example: if something or a person does not serve its purpose in my life, then I find peace in letting it or them go.

Helps You Draw Boundaries

An important benefit is it helps you to draw boundaries in your professional and personal life. You know exactly how far you will go and even how far someone can cross their boundaries.

When you know your boundaries, you are also able to create your own value system. Creating one will help you live a life aligned to your values.

Are you honest about your expectations from yourself? Please share with me in the comments.

Honestly, I’m thrilled that I am represented by a literary agent for my women’s fiction novel, Enchanted Silence. I am super happy and thankful and feel blessed. But now that I am focusing on the marketing aspect, I feel confused. I have a marketing plan and I am working on it, but I am also thinking of heading into several areas.

Related: Using the Law of Attraction to Create Abundance in Your Life

Let the Answer Come to You

I’m Confusing Myself and Over Thinking Instead…

I’m overwhelming myself. My mind is going into overdrive. I don’t know what direction to head into. I’m afraid that I’m trying to do too much. I’m only one human being, after all. And I don’t have anyone to guide me.

Should I focus exclusively on my blog? Or shall I focus on getting media interviews? The truth is all of this needs to be done. But I work full-time, have family commitments, and a personal life.

So I Just Stopped Thinking…

The thoughts are still coming, but I am not consciously thinking anymore. The thoughts may flow into my head, but I’m letting it just flow away and not paying attention to it.

Baby, I’m Gonna Try Something Different This Time!

I told myself I’m going to change my style. I’m going to continue living my life and living it to the fullest. I’m going to let the Universe intervene here. Let the answer come to me. In doing this, I’ll have to become very still. I’ll have to clear my head of the clutter of thoughts.

And let the perfect answer come to me. It doesn’t matter no one is there to guide me. My heart-driven energy is gonna guide me 🙂

Have you let the answer come to you? Please share with me in the comments!