How to Stop Being Hard on Yourself About Past Decisions

November 11, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

It’s completely normal to make mistakes. But often, you may end up being hard on yourself unnecessarily and drive yourself exhausted with your high expectations.

Don’t be Hard On Yourself

From personal experience, I have very high expectations from myself, so high that I let myself be weighed down by them. I’m only human and my decisions have turned out to be great and other times, not so great.

Your Mistakes Are a Part of Your Journey

Every decision, whether it turned out great or not, is a part of your journey. It’s a part of your growth and evolution as a human being.

Have you ever thought you could have made a better decision, but in some time, something else beautiful happened that you realized you would never have gotten to that point if it weren’t for that earlier decision? And then the synchronicity of the events made perfect sense to you!

Embrace that You’re Not Perfect

You are not perfect. Perfection can be so boring! Mistakes are what cause us to fall in love or have babies or have an incredible experience. It’s called living life.

Realize You Made the Best Possible Choice at the Time

This is really important to realize. No one makes a wrong decision deliberately. You made the best possible decision at the time with the resources and information you had at hand. If you had known, you wouldn’t have made that decision. Understand that and be kind to yourself.

Learn and Move Forward!

It is perfectly alright and even encouraged to make mistakes! Especially in your twenties! Just make sure you learn from your past decisions, take the lesson, apply it, and move forward.

Have you been hard on yourself for past decisions? How did you deal with it? Please share with me in the comments.

Do You Run Away from Your Fears?

November 9, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

How do you deal with a challenging situation? Do you confront your fears or run away? This is a good question to ask yourself. In fact, I highly recommend to pull out your journal and write this question down. Jot down your fears along with your responses to them.

Running Away from Fears

See if you can figure out a pattern in your reactions.

Running Away is Not the Solution

Running away is never the solution.

If you run away from your fears, then do something about it. This is important because there will be ups and downs in life. That is a part of life and the earlier you learn to stop running away from what scares you, the better.

It Only Causes A Never Ending Cycle

In fact, you will be faced with the same experiences over and over until you learn the life lesson you are meant to learn.

Here are some ways for you to deal with your fears:

Take Time Off to Be With Yourself

Take a weekend off and spend it with yourself. Do anything you like to do. You can go fishing or go away on a retreat. Whatever it is, make sure you take the time to be alone with your thoughts.

Acknowledge Your Fears and Vulnerabilities

Embrace your fears and vulnerabilities. By accepting them, you are telling yourself it’s alright to have them. The only way to deal with them is to acknowledge their existence.

Appreciate that You are Only Human

Remember you a human being. You aren’t perfect and part of the human experience is having fears. It’s completely normal. But running away from them is not the answer. Instead, take the time to acknowledge and deal with them so you can evolve into your highest self.

How do you deal with your fears? Please share with me in the comments.

How to Cope with Family Who Does Not Support You

November 4, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

This must have happened to you at some point. I remember I had decided to quit my job last year to make time to write my novel Enchanted Silence. My parents were not happy with my decision.

Family Not Supporting You

I Remember Their Reactions

Are you crazy? But what about your rent? What are you going to do once your book is complete?

How did I react? I argued with them. I said I’m tired of recruiting and I want my life to be more than going to an office. I told them I didn’t want to live the lives they did. Ouch! They weren’t too happy with my responses.

A Better, More Effective Solution…

Don’t try to convince them. Even if they don’t agree with your decision or viewpoints, they still love you and are looking after your best interest.

If you truly have made up your mind and believe in your decision, then don’t convince them. After all, they are entitled to their opinion.

Try a different approach. Tell them you are going ahead with your decision, but explain to them your reasons.

I said: “Mom and Dad, I understand your reasons. But I want to give my novel a shot. I’m not getting enough time working full-time and I’m tired after work. I don’t have any kids or am married yet, I don’t have too much responsibility. I don’t want to think about what could have been. I could finish the novel in two to three months and and always have the option to go get another job.”

See, you’re explaining to your parents why this is important to you and also letting them know it’s not permanent (although it may be in your mind). You also gave them an alternative solution as well, so they feel better about the whole thing.

Have you had this experience? How did you respond? Please share with me in the comments.

The Beauty of Emotional Freedom – Take 4 Steps to Feel Liberated

October 31, 2014 by Priyanka 3 Comments

Do you feel emotionally stuck at times? When you feel emotionally stuck, you can’t move forward. No matter what you do, your fears rise up and take up space, blocking you from actualizing your desires.

Emotional Freedom

You Feel Uninspired…

You don’t know what to do or where to move. Everything seems to be one hazy blur in your head. Then, you don’t do anything. You look outside to the world and see everyone else moving forward. Or it appears that way to you. You fling yourself deeper in this cycle of feeling stuck.

How do You Become Unstuck?

Here are 4 Steps You can Take:

Get Crystal Clear on Your Desires

You can’t have one foot in and one foot out. You can’t want something and then play this hide and seek game that you don’t really want it. It doesn’t do you any good. The first step to realizing your desires is to admitting you have desires.

I’ll give you a simple example. When I realized I did not want to be a recruiter, I didn’t acknowledge at first. I would think it’s not logical to not be doing an office job. But this year, I stopped these thoughts. I let them glide past me.

What was my desire? I did not want to be a recruiter. Then what did I want to do? I want to be a writer.

I still work full-time while managing my writing career, but I am very clear on this desire. All I know is that a time is going to come when I will release my recruiting job so I can give more time and focus to my writing. I don’t know when it’s going to happen or how, but I’m accepting my desire.

Your desire doesn’t have to be as big as mine. To get in the groove, start with simple desires. Maybe you want to go paddle boarding. Let the desire linger in your head. Accept it. Don’t push it away.

Pull Out a Journal and Start Writing Your Thoughts

This is the best thing you can do for yourself. Keep a journal for you and your thoughts. Start writing down how you’re feeling. Ask yourself questions. Why do you feel fear about this desire? When you write it down, it becomes more real. It’s no longer just a thought. You can see your thinking patterns. Dive deeper.

Why do you feel this fear? Is it linked to a past experience? Do you feel not worthy of being happy?

You’ll be really surprised at what you find. I know I was. I had deep seated fears and reasons I had never acknowledged.

Find out what is blocking you so you can clear the space for your desires to realize.

See Your Fears with No Fear

Start looking at what holds you back. Observe yourself. See your fears with no fear. Be honest with yourself. Honesty is the most important thing when you want to feel liberated from your fears. This is the key to emotional freedom.

Give Yourself Permission to Live Your Truth

Deep in your heart, you already know what makes you happy. You know your truth. But things get in the way and then you feel you’re too far from living your truth. Start with baby steps.

Give your permission to live your vision. Life will show you the way 🙂

Does this feel familiar? What is your biggest takeaway from this post that can help you feel unstuck? Please share with me in the comments.

What does Your Inner Sage Say to You?

October 28, 2014 by Priyanka Leave a Comment

Your heart is like a inner sage. You are connected to the Universe and that divine energy like every one of us on this planet. Your heart speaks to you powerfully even when you do not realize it.

Inner Sage

Listen to Your Heart

The best way to figure out what your inner sage is saying to you is to LISTEN to it! I read somewhere that the quieter you make your mind, the more it will speak to you.

The way to listen to your heart is to clear all the clutter and internal blocks in your head. Do meditation or go for a walk. It doesn’t even have to be anything big or complex. It can be anything that helps bring you back to the present and feel relaxed and still.

It’s Guiding You with Its Infinite Wisdom

Your heart is filled with infinite wisdom. You know how you knew something was going to happen even before it actually happened? Or you knew something or someone wasn’t right for you, but you didn’t understand why? That’s your infinite wisdom speaking to you.

Let it Move Your Life

Don’t resist your Inner Sage. Let it move and guide you through your life. You don’t need to understand the specifics of how, why, and when completely. All you have to do is simply surrender.

What does your Inner Sage say to you? Please share with me in the comments.

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Priyanka Yadvendu

Answers to Joy, Intimacy, Security, Family & Romantic Relationships for 20-Something Women