Have you wanted to blaze forward in your life but instead feel stuck? Are you confused on how to create opportunity when your life seems like it’s giving you anything but this?

Personally, I have experienced this. And it can hit on your self-esteem. It can make you feel inadequate. I remember talking to friends and even acquaintances and though their intentions were well-meaning, they told me to hang in there and everything would work out.

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But I wanted to Bang My Head on the Table Instead…

I felt frustrated. The desire was there. I wanted to move forward. I wanted to become unstuck. But how?

Use Your Challenging Experiences as Your Trump Card

My novel, Enchanted Silence, would not have been possible if I hadn’t channelized my challenging experiences into it. A good chunk of my emotions are there, even if the events don’t resemble my life.

When I started, it was therapeutic to get all my emotions down on paper. It was a good way to release everything from my heart. I didn’t start writing, thinking I would someday sign with a literary agent. That came much later. I took one baby step at a time.

Meet People who Share Your Passion 

I attended writing conferences, but I can understand if you don’t want to take a step like this. If you’re not even sure about what you really want to do, then make a list narrowing down your interests to two to four top interests. Meet people virtually or attend a simple Meet Up that relates to your interests. Observe and see what really makes your  heart beat fast.

Be Direct and Ask for Help!

This is not easy for me. I can’t ask for help. I don’t know how to be direct. But sometimes, the BEST way is to ask someone who is doing what you’re doing is to simply ask for help. Ask for tips. Ask them if you can get involved in any capacity. Chances are they may have something for you.

If not, so what? You can check with other people and that person may remember you later for something else. Always build and nurture your relationships with people.

What are your thoughts on this post? Please share with me in the comments.