The last month, I’ve been hearing a lot of my friends talk about their relationships falling apart. My friends are telling me: How could I even have given that guy a chance? It was so obvious from the get start he didn’t have it together. He wasn’t marriage material…

The funny thing about relationships is that once you’ve exited out of one, you can see everything clearly. It’s like suddenly a crystal ball is in your hands. A good chunk of being in a healthy relationship is about being in one with the right man.

Don’t Jump into Dating Right Away

When your relationship falls apart, an emotional void is created. Suddenly, you don’t have someone to turn to when a funny thought crosses your mind. Or someone you can reveal your vulnerabilities to. Someone you can cuddle with. You get the point.

In this situation, it’s easy to jump into another man’s arms. But are his arms right for you? That is the question, darling.

Focus On Your Inner Self Instead

Your mind is too cluttered. Your heart is healing. No matter what, I say don’t close your heart. Keep it cracking open even when it just wants to shut down.

Whatever you can do to uplift and support yourself, do just that. For me, it’s been getting back to basics. I started to fill my time reading a lot of self development blogs and reading novels. I journal a lot to express my emotions and have conversations with myself.

Break Your Pattern

Do all that lovely inner work on yourself. Why is that so important? Because you need to shift something inside. You need to reassess your desires and thinking patterns. What do you really want out of your life? What do you want from a relationship? Answer all your soul-searching questions honestly. Don’t hold back. Remember your external world is an exact reflection of your inner self.

Do the inner work so you can break your pattern. So you can be attracted to the right type of man. So the right man can enter your life and you’ll know exactly what to do magically.

Start Visualizing a Happy Relationship

This is something I have started doing myself. I have had a pattern to be attracted to a specific type of man. Today, I’ll openly say I deserve the love of a man who uplifts me, feels pride in all my successes, and most of all, desires to be in a healthy relationship. I want to build a beautiful partnership with that man on all levels – emotionally, physically, and intellectually.

So I have started visualizing a happy relationship. I visualize what a happy marriage would be like. The more I visualize it, the more I can attract the right type of man into my life.

Are you attracted to the right type of man? Please share with me in the comments.